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I recently came across two blog posts that reminded me of my personal mantra to try to dress well everyday. I think life coach Stacia Pierce recently had a blog post about how dressing well is a life-changer and the motivational business effects of dressing well. Nadege has also written many posts about the benefits of being and looking attractive. Both blogs end with tips on how to up your game on dressing well every day.
I have tried to dress well every day since college… I used to intern at a psychiatric prison/hospital, and some of the guards/workers made fun of how I dressed. There were some basic rules, no skirts and stilettos, no large hoop earrings, no ponytails, basic safety issue type things so I wore pants, kitten heels, button down-shirts, mainly small jewellery, etc. No purses or personal effects were allowed on campus, it was a prison after all. Apparently, I looked like I was trying too hard, so the guards often made fun of me. Implied very rude things, like I was at the prison looking for a man (huh?).
But the psychologists I worked with set me straight. They said – look how the prisoner/patients respond to you. Look how the interaction between you (intern/future professional) is so different from their interactions with others… The prisoner/patients have identified you as someone they treat with respect. Plus, one of them said, for some of them, I may have been the only professional black woman they had ever seen, who was there to help them.These messages left an impression on me.
But before I even started at this prison/hospital, my mother always said that dressing well was good manners. It is a way of showing the people around you respect. Taking the time to get dressed everyday, brush teeth, wash-up, smell good, everything… tells the people around you that they are worth you getting dressed for. Plus, looking good on the outside, can make us feel good on the inside. As a former therapist, we were trained to tell our depressed patients that they shouldn’t wait to feel better to do something, that sometimes, forcing yourself to do something as simple as getting out of the bed and getting dressed will help you feel better. It’s a bonus if people respond favourably, it should not be the goal, focusing on oneself was the goal.
So there, just me rambling on about the benefits of getting dressed daily. Now that I work from home 80% of the time, I hope I can follow through on this mantra. Please note that to me, dressing well isn’t about buying expensive clothes, I rarely spend more than $50 on an item of clothing, but about making the effort to be presentable. What do you do to feel good about yourself daily. Meditate, wear make-up, exercise, eat right…. put real trousers (pants) on?
Thanks for stopping by and stay blessed.
Have you checked out the Look Book Store? I just discovered them and plan on shopping on the site soon! Oh, and it’s time for Visible Monday, a great link-up party online. Go check out some of these really amazing style bloggers. And one more link-up here… I love these.